I hate that "no new friends"saying.
Dont misunderstand me, i get the sentiment behind it. My problem with it is that it blocks you from being open to new and possibly rewarding friendships.
My oldest and best friend lives in the States and we havent seen each other in more than a couple of years. I've known her since i was 18. If i kill someone tomorrow, she's probably the first one i'd tell. My cousin Kiki will also aid in the murder cover up, no doubt.
There's Remi who i've also known for over 20yrs. We might not speak on the phone or chat everyday but she will help me find where to hide the body.
Now there's a couple of "new" people in my life that i honestly don't know where i would be if i wasn't friends with them. They encourage me, uplift me, scold me *often*and most importantly laugh with me.
The winning team of Q, Seember , Ulari and Oria practically physically pulled me out of the depths of depression a couple of years ago. I was going through a really hard time with my health, relationships, *both romantic and friendships* family and finances. it was like everything bad happened all at once.
I met these angels via social media. I could start listing more people but then this post will look like lyrics from an Oliver D'Coque praise singing song. Lol!!
So i say YES to new friends!!!
Dont get me wrong, there are some nasty pieces of work out there who will make you rethink the meaning of friendship and loyalty. Please dont let that sway you. We live to learn from experiences so even if you have been burnt, be careful but still open.
I am generally perceived as a "nice" person. I'd like to think i am. *most times* Not everyone is though. I have some friends that have people going "what do you have in common with her/him? He/she comes across as angry/stuck up/fancy/rude but you are not like that" and vice versa *especially considering how much i swear and use downright filthy language*
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My favourite saying when it comes to friendships is "to love your friends is to know them" You don't know this dude/chick the way i do. You might have met them on an off day so till you actually get to know them, it's all perception.
As much as i'm seen as a"friendly", "happy go lucky", "always positive"kinda girl....
Trust me when i tell you i'm not always that way. I can be as bitchy, self centered and mean spirited as the next person. I have a horrible, nasty sometimes violent temper. It very rarely rears it's ugly head but when it does, i'm a terrible person to be around. I hate being that person. The last time i can honestly say i was that angry was almost 3yrs ago. I shoved my friend halfway across the room , wanted to start a fight at a family gathering and said pretty horrible things to people i love.
Thinking about it now makes me cringe with embarrassment and deep regret . I was so out of control and as much i believe in taking responsibility for your actions, who you surround yourself with at any point in time affects how you behave. I was greatly indulged and enabled. I honestly wish someone slapped the shit out of me and made me realize how terribly behaved i was. It has taken my mothers prayers and the special grace of God to help me in that respect.
We all have our off days. If you meet me on an off day *which isn't often, but exists* you wouldn't like me either.
Anyway, the moral of this long gist is to not be so closed off to new people or new experiences.
Remain blessed and fabulous