Yes, I said it.
When people say "I love Boki, she doesn't judge" It makes me smile because I'm not judgmental about the things expect me *or people in general* to be.
I really don't care about if he's gay or if she's a "slut"
I honestly can't  understand our obsession with people's sex lives. As long as it's between consenting adults and no one is being hurt emotionally *cos physical pain might be your thing*, why do I care what people are doing with their reproductive organs?  Is it my toto??
I am judgy about a lot of other things though.....

Grown Gossipy men

I am all about equality between the sexes and I am a card-carrying feminist but I draw the line at grown men acting a fool. You know the ones I'm talking about, don't you? The ones either on social media or in real life who jump on every bit of gist and want to know details. The ones that are actually shameless enough to ask/tweet for background info on a tweet fight. Guys, you have no clue how unattractive that is. Women expect their men to be above some things or at least pretend to be.
 Trust me when I tell you it isn't a good look...

The inappropriate Commenters

These ones I feel like knocking their heads . I'm not being sexist but it's mostly men. Bros, why on earth do you think it's okay to comment on a chicks picture with a lewd emoji or say something like "I can bury my head in your chest forever" or "see those boobs, kai, if i catch you ehhhn" It's even worse when it's married men. Why leave yourself AND your family open to being insulted? Be a pervy fool all you like in private but don't come and shame the poor woman who has to deal with you in the public of igwe mmadu. She most certainly didn't sign up for that.It goes back to the point I keep making...would you ever in your life walk up to me, and just spit that shit out?  When you aren't drunk or high??
"You look great", "Wow", "That's a lovely outfit" even "Damn, you are hot"are nicer, more appropriate ways to voice your admiration out in public to someone especially when y'all aren't cool like that.  Biko fix up
In saying that, there's also the chicks who come on your page and say stupid things like "na wah o, it seems like everyday is cheat day" or "ah, you seem to be getting fairer o"  Bitch, take several seats and sit yo ass DOWN!!!

The Lax Parents

You know the ones that let their children get away with EVERYTHING??? From not greeting older people to being rude to the help  to throwing tantrums in supermarkets...
I've been told "Wait till you born your own" which I think is a bag of horse shit.
 A badly behaved child says a lot about you as a parent. I may not have a child but I have 4 nieces and 2 nephews ranging from 7 months to 9 yrs old. It's not cool that you haven't taught your child the basic principles of being a decent human being like treating people with respect and saying "good afternoon", "thank you" and "please"
You might think you are being cool and sophisticated now but believe me when i tell you that there can NEVER be anything cool about an ill-bred child.

The Name droppers

I don't really have to expand on this, do I?
Yeah, you know "famous"people....have a cookie.
Every other sentence is "When I and *insert any "celeb"name here* went to ________" or "I used to be close to *insert again* till they made it big, now to even reply my text is a problem"

The Fuck Boys/Girls

You know the ones who leak nudes or post screen munched conversations that are meant to be private on social media??? Yeah, those are called fuck boys and girls. Those are really scum in my opinion and I judge them without any reservations. 

The Reluctant Complimenters

These ones can't bring themselves to actually pay you a compliment without throwing in some shade....You know the ones that will say something like "kai, you have lost a lot of weight o but see how all your bum has gone" or "you really looked nice in that outfit but I'm really not sure that colour is for you" 
Errrrrrrrrrrm......make up your mind. It's either I look good or I don't.

The Scandal Enthusiasts/Curators

These ones seem to know EVERYBODY'S gist!!! 
They are the first to shout and comment when some scandal comes out about someone.  You know the ones that will say things like "I wonder if LIB has heard this gist"*knowing fully well that she searches the internet for her name* so you just gave her the gist..Duh
They are the ones that know who *insert female celebrity name* used to kpox when she was just up and coming and wont hesitate to mention it at the slightest whiff of a scandal.
They are most likely the "anonymous"that comment on gossip blogs and give the "full gist" on everybody. 

I could go on and on but then I'd just sound like a sour old lady. Lol!!
So tell me, what are you judgy about? I promise not to judge you..


Written by Boki
My name is Boki and I love all things beautiful. I’m a very positive person and I truly expect the same from all of you that decide to take this journey with me so please read our house rules and behave accordingly.


  1. RIO May 27, 2015 at 10:27 am Reply

    Gbam! You see that last group eh, the scandal curators. They are most certainly the bile spitting anons on gossip blogs. Even their conduct on the TL clues you in. They are miserable people who get off on negativity.

    • Boki May 27, 2015 at 11:17 am Reply

      You gerrit!!!! Such angry souls. Face front biko!!!

  2. Lita May 27, 2015 at 11:48 am Reply

    I am judgy about everything you listed above especially the grown ass old men acting born-fool.. If not for education, they will be the tying wrapper up and down discussing with housewives about what Iya Bose did yesterday.

    • Boki May 28, 2015 at 5:48 am Reply

      I love that i’m clearly not alone. Yay!!!

  3. Anonymous May 27, 2015 at 12:05 pm Reply

    The people who seek all levels of validation from Social Media yet pretend they are the most confident of the lot. Irks my soul to infinity.

    • Boki May 28, 2015 at 5:51 am Reply

      “irks my soul to infinity”
      Lmao!!!! You sound irked, thats for sure. Pele o!!!!


  4. Kemi May 27, 2015 at 1:20 pm Reply

    I rarely judge people. But somehow I can relate to all the points you listed. Good write up as usua.Keep it up

    • Boki May 28, 2015 at 5:54 am Reply

      Thanks dear, i’m happy you enjoyed it.


  5. yellowchilli May 27, 2015 at 1:40 pm Reply

    Lovely post. I’ve always wondered what fuck boy meant. Now I know, thanks. I tend to judge thone. So so immature and really unnecessary..

  6. ;) May 27, 2015 at 5:43 pm Reply

    Hello Boki.
    Honestly, I do agree with you 100% on the Lax parents. I don’t think there’s much of an excuse there.

    Per the Name droppers, I seriously don’t know how the world needs those pieces of info like “I just skyped so and so…” and numerous others.

    The curators amaze me too. Some even know gists of people in other African countries and I’m like shior…

    Funny enough, there are people who check more than three of these points of yours all at once.

    Also, I don’t believe that anyone can be totally non judgmental and I find the very judgmental ones to wanna always claim they are not. I think that as mortals, we are judgmental by default but it should be in a constructive manner.

    Might I add Boki that I love your demeanor? There’s this bubble of radiance about you. Keep it up! 🙂

  7. Uju May 27, 2015 at 8:51 pm Reply

    LOVE THIS BOKI!!! You spoke my mind! We were just having a conversation about naughty kids and I said it’ll be impossible for me to raise naughty children. I don’t even have the energy for kids who throw tantrums. My mom didn’t put up with that, neither will I.

    Let’s not even start on myopic and women men! I seriously despise people who think a lady living by herself is a “runs” girl? Like WTH?? Independent maybe? Hardworking? NO? Women shouldn’t get ahead because a man-boy will interpret it as her being a call girl or some sort of prostitute? Shame…

  8. Nedoux May 27, 2015 at 10:49 pm Reply

    Spot on! Boki,

    Thumbs down for the reluctant complimenters, even worse are the non-complimenters.

    It’s amazing how a simple “Your earrings are lovely” could light someone up and lift their spirit.

  9. Nice anon May 28, 2015 at 3:04 pm Reply

    People who pay half ass compliments are the worst! Either you shut all the way the fuck up or you say what you really want to say.

    Personally, I judge people at the grocery store who are clearly morbidly obese YET their cart is filled with all sorts of unhealthy crap. I’m judging the hell outta you.

    I judge so called bloggers who can’t dress for shit. The clothes never fit right. Always a color riot.( I actually think most Nigerian bloggers are shit but that’s just me).

    That is all I’m willing to write in public for now. LOL!

    • Boki May 31, 2015 at 6:41 am Reply

      Shots fired!!! Pow Pow Pow!!! Lol!!! Let it all out honey.. 😁😁😁😁

  10. Kay May 28, 2015 at 3:04 pm Reply

    I judge those ones(mostly celebrities) that call people who don’t agree with their philosophy on certain topics “haters” and then go on about how their account balances are smiling and all. Tells alot about their self esteem. Kills me all the time

  11. Kay May 28, 2015 at 3:06 pm Reply

    The celebrities that call every one who disagree with them “haters”. And then go on about how rich and fat their account balances are. Really,I judge that bunch a lot.

    • Boki May 31, 2015 at 6:43 am Reply

      See ehhhhn, the celebrities I can cut some slack but it’s the everyday people talking about haters that does my head in.
      Who is you boo boo? Abeg shift!!
      Thanks for sharing hon.

  12. More Bonuses June 6, 2015 at 1:22 am Reply

    I just want to say I’m new to blogs and really loved your web-site. Almost certainly I’m planning to bookmark your site . You definitely have wonderful stories. Thanks a bunch for sharing with us your web site.

    • Boki June 9, 2015 at 12:40 pm Reply

      Thank you sooooooo much. I hope I continue to entertain you.

  13. Sexybeast June 11, 2015 at 11:30 am Reply

    Boki!!! First off, congratulations on doing this. I am super proud of you and happy because you have a voice that should be heard as you actually have shit to say that’s worth listening to. I also believe RED LIPS WIN with all my heart.

    I judge people who try to act humble but are really arrogant on the DL. I believe false humility is much worse than false pride therefore even though arrogant people get on my tits, I will take an underwear flashing, Rolex-on-my-wrist brandishing, I-just-got-back declaring, look-at-my-2017-Bentley announcing, Davido over a supposedly “humble” DonJazzy. Have the courage to own who you are.

    I also judge people who want to be popular and famous but won’t admit it then pretend like the spotlight isn’t their lifelong dream. You then get mad when the people who voice out their desires get ahead while you remain in your dusty, dark corner.

    I judge women who once they become married believe they are in this exclusive club where their former League of Extremely Single Ladies are pariahs and suddenly unclean like pork to a Muslim. I think it’s beyond conformism… It’s confusionism about your own judgement calls as an individual.

    Biko, before I build my blog inside your inside your blog,let slope off and go earn me a living or at least be nuisance to my employees this morning.

    Blessings sugar mama!

Leave a Comment