Y’all know what i’m talking about, don’t you?
We see it everyday on social media and blogs.
Once it’s announced that “so and so is getting married/got an amazing new job/has started her own business” the vultures start circling. “I know that girl na, she’s a runs girl/used to fuck one married dude/borrowed clothes in school/slept her way to the top/isn’t she the one that______ dumped? …….. blah blah blah
This isn’t about gossiping. When i sit down with Madre to gossip about family and friends, the walls vibrate!!! Lol!! We gossip with our people, are bitchy, catty and downright mean sometimes .
This is about people making a calculated decision to bring other people down publicly. It’s the commenting on Bella Naija that you know the chick a guy who just got engaged and is featured is fucking, on whether the new bride used to date some married dude.
When did we become so damn rude??? But most importantly, when did we become so bitter ??
You know that saying “sticks and stones may hurt me but words never will” *or something along those lines sha*
Well, that saying is bullshit. Words hurt. They hurt a LOT
I gossip with my close friends and family. Who doesn’t??? Would i meet the people i have spoken about on the street and repeat said gossip??? Hell NO!!! My family gossip alone is enough to have me hung and quartered.
I’ve always maintained that if i cant say it to your face, i have no business typing it out on twitter , IG or in the comment section of a blog.
No matter how much we form “hard chick”it hurts to read shit about you. It doesn’t matter if it’s true or not. In fact it’s worse if it’s true because that means a trust has been broken somewhere along the line. The lies you can laugh off but it’s a forced kinda laughing off. The point remains that complete strangers *because they are all anonymous online* feel so much hate towards you enough to make up stories just to bring you down.
I don’t envy celebrities one bit. When i read the bile people spew on their pages, it makes me want to throw up. How do you write that and feel good about yourself? What did that person do to deserve that from you? Who raised you to think it’s okay to be that rude and mean to someone who doesn’t even know you exist talk less of offending you.
I am not speaking to someone i used to be really cool with because he’s quite the online bully. I spoke to him several times about it, he didn’t let up. One day i had enough and publicly called him out on twitter about it. He got his panties in a bunch and turned on me . It’s okay though…. #ByeFolarin
We need to do better.
Everyone has stuff in their life they rather forget about, i dare you to say you don’t……
That’s my little rant for the day done.
Have a great day folks