Y’all know what i’m talking about, don’t you?

We see it everyday on social media and blogs.

Once it’s announced that “so and so is getting married/got an amazing new job/has started her own business” the vultures start circling. “I know that girl na, she’s a runs girl/used to fuck one married dude/borrowed clothes in school/slept her way to the top/isn’t she the one that______ dumped? …….. blah blah blah

Everyone gossips

This isn’t about gossiping. When i sit down with  Madre to gossip about family and friends, the walls vibrate!!! Lol!! We gossip with our people, are bitchy, catty and downright mean sometimes .

This is about people making a calculated decision to bring other people down publicly. It’s the commenting on Bella Naija  that you know the chick a guy who just got engaged and is featured is fucking, on whether the new bride used to date some married dude.

When did we become so damn rude??? But most importantly, when did we become so bitter ??

You know that saying “sticks and stones may hurt me but words never will” *or something along those lines sha* 

Well, that saying is bullshit. Words hurt. They hurt a LOT

I gossip with my close friends and family. Who doesn’t??? Would i meet the people i have spoken about on the street and repeat said gossip??? Hell NO!!! My family gossip alone is enough to have me hung and quartered. 

I’ve always maintained that if i cant say it to your face, i have no business typing it out on twitter , IG or in the comment section of a blog.

No matter how much we form “hard chick”it hurts to read shit about you. It doesn’t  matter if it’s true or not. In fact it’s worse if it’s true because that means a trust has been broken somewhere along the line. The lies you can laugh off but it’s a forced kinda laughing off. The point remains that complete strangers *because they are all anonymous online* feel so much hate towards you enough to make up stories just to bring you down.

I don’t envy celebrities one bit. When i read the bile people spew on their pages, it makes me want to throw up. How do you write that and feel good about yourself? What did that person do to deserve that from you?  Who raised you to think it’s okay to be that rude and mean to someone who doesn’t even know you exist talk less of offending you. 

I am not speaking to someone i used to be really cool with because he’s quite the online bully. I spoke to him several times about it, he didn’t let up. One day i had enough and publicly called him out on twitter about it. He got his panties in a bunch and turned on me . It’s okay though…. #ByeFolarin 

We need to do better.

Everyone has stuff in their life they rather forget about, i dare you to say you don’t……

That’s my little rant for the day done. 

Have a great day folks


Written by Boki
My name is Boki and I love all things beautiful. I’m a very positive person and I truly expect the same from all of you that decide to take this journey with me so please read our house rules and behave accordingly.


  1. tolu April 17, 2015 at 9:13 am Reply

    So basically you opened this blog so you can explode all your feelings. LMAOO. I will always love gal. I like it though, we be here always to read more

    • Boki April 17, 2015 at 8:44 pm Reply

      Well , kinda.
      Thanks babe

  2. Trina April 17, 2015 at 9:22 am Reply

    You’re right thumbs up, I shall be visiting here more often

    • Boki April 17, 2015 at 8:44 pm Reply

      Thank you….
      Please do

  3. Metrogypsie April 17, 2015 at 9:24 am Reply

    Love the name of your blog because red lips

    • Boki April 17, 2015 at 8:45 pm Reply

      Uh huh honey!!!!
      Thanks Steph….Mwaaaaahhhh

  4. Kathyesan April 17, 2015 at 9:58 am Reply

    This post said nothing but the truth. I think all the vile things people say is just out of envy. I mean they all wish they were in the persons shoes if not why so so bitter.

    • Boki April 17, 2015 at 8:48 pm Reply

      I agree completely…..

  5. OGE April 17, 2015 at 10:38 am Reply

    Enough said.

  6. RIO April 17, 2015 at 10:39 am Reply

    What Abike says about Ronke says more about Abike than it does about Ronke. Selah.

    • Boki April 17, 2015 at 8:50 pm Reply


  7. Liv April 17, 2015 at 11:00 am Reply

    What Rio said!

  8. CheRox April 17, 2015 at 1:34 pm Reply

    I’ve learned that many people are actually just ugly on the inside. Many times the hate the spew is often a reflection of how they feel about themselves but they refuse to look at themselves in the mirror. They feel small, so anything to cut someone else down to size. They don’t have friends, so anything to poison the waters of friendship for their victim. They’re simply exposing their insides.

    • Boki April 17, 2015 at 8:51 pm Reply

      Uche, i think you said it best!!!!

  9. Purehaire April 17, 2015 at 1:58 pm Reply

    People are actually horrible and exhibit it by pulling down. Goes to how the persob was raised really.
    Meanwhile, yayyyyyy! Then Youtube vids bikonu

  10. Glam April 17, 2015 at 2:30 pm Reply

    Cherox, can I marry you?! I couldn’t have put it any better.

  11. Cindy April 17, 2015 at 3:31 pm Reply

    I don’t know you personally but I love you, you remind me so much of my close friend she is way older than I am but down to earth. Keep doing you, you are phabulous. Online bullies scare me so much I always wonder how they live with themselves after bringing another down. Like, who doesn’t have baggage or skeletons and who made you judge when God is still on the throne. Live and let’s live

    • Boki April 17, 2015 at 8:55 pm Reply

      That’s such a lovely thing to say. God bless you. Please don’t be scared of them. They are weak, pitiful people.

  12. KingAbsolute April 18, 2015 at 1:13 pm Reply

    This is my first time visiting here & am not disappointed. Keep it up Boki dear, you sabi.

    I would visit here more often, count me as your newest fan.

  13. KingAbsolute April 18, 2015 at 1:19 pm Reply

    “I don’t envy celebrities one bit. When i read the bile people spew on their pages, it makes me want to throw up. How do you write that and feel good about yourself? What did that person do to deserve that from you? Who raised you to think it’s okay to be that rude and mean to someone who doesn’t even know you exist talk less of offending you.”

    This your quote is DOPEST, I’ve been thinking this way just don’t know how to express myself cuz people will always ignore & continue spewing celebs.

  14. N April 18, 2015 at 6:32 pm Reply

    Laveet! You will end up on television! Mark my words. If any beauty product had half a brain, they will grab you now before you explode! I dont watch tv but if I knew you were on, I would! Love your positivity, vulnerability, agbayaness,the whole shebang! You were the reason I joined IG & I think you’re sweet!
    BTW, Cherox said it ALL….

  15. Buki O. May 4, 2015 at 2:19 pm Reply

    Preach it. Naija online bullies would scare even the devil; himself. Haba. so much venom and bile. Urrgh.

  16. zanny May 7, 2015 at 5:02 pm Reply

    Nice post

  17. Achenyo May 11, 2015 at 9:28 pm Reply

    I LOVE your blog, Boki! Bring the bitch down – so true. Ill be here! x

    • Boki May 11, 2015 at 11:02 pm Reply

      Thank you!!!!

  18. Aisha May 24, 2015 at 8:12 am Reply

    Okay I don’t know u but you speak the truth on your blog! U seem so happy and positive and I’m glad I stumbled on your blog! You’re all shades of awesome, darling.

    • Boki May 24, 2015 at 9:11 am Reply

      That’s such a lovely thing to say. Thank you. I’m happy you enjoy my blog.

  19. SOM May 27, 2015 at 8:20 pm Reply

    You are fucking awesome….and oh,your blog is like a fresh breath…you write exactly the way you feel….I loveeeeeeeeee it!!!!

  20. Maryam May 29, 2015 at 8:49 pm Reply

    I’m really glad I stumbled upon your blog. I like how with every blog there’s always something to learn. I’m definitely gonna be a subscriber. I follow you ob twitter and I gotta say you are an extremely sweet person. Please do keep up with the blog. Bless you!

    • Boki May 31, 2015 at 6:39 am Reply

      Thank you!! That’s a lovely thing to say.

  21. Femi June 2, 2015 at 8:56 pm Reply

    Love the blog and how you’ve kept it real. You write really really well Boki – we need to have you on a talk show or something… But why don’t you like beans na? 🙁

    • Boki June 3, 2015 at 9:28 am Reply

      My darling #Mamiwata, my dream job would be having my own talk show so if you know someone who knows someone…..
      I like beans as moi moi or akara but on its own??? Yuck!!! Lol!!
      Thanks for stopping by hon

  22. ForeverChioma_ July 1, 2015 at 12:40 pm Reply

    Love! Love! This blog. I love how you keep it real.

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