On Becoming by Toke Makinwa. First of all…DISCLAIMER!!! Y’all know my written English is sooooooo much better than my spoken English. I’m particular about not over editing my videos so y’all can really get the essence of me……I’m a bush igbo woman and English isn’t my first language so biko ignore any mispronunciations and gbagaouns, ok? I think this video pretty much sums up MY thoughts on the book of the moment. You don’t have to agree with me but please disagree respectfully. I hope y’all enjoy watching and please don’t hold back on feedback and opinions. Mmmmwwwaaa


These are some parts of the book that really got to me…..







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My name is Boki and I love all things beautiful. I’m a very positive person and I truly expect the same from all of you that decide to take this journey with me so please read our house rules and behave accordingly.


  1. Annie December 2, 2016 at 12:06 pm Reply

    Just wanted to say this – On “we all know a Toke-ish girl…”

    I can’t lie, I’m sorta kinda still slightly Toke-ish cos I’m still quite emotionally entangled with a guy I used to date (we’re forming ‘friendship’ these days – side-eye at myself).

    The only difference (and dare I say, saving grace) is that I have also refused to commit fully to this cos it’s one thing to have my mumu button, but I ain’t all the way stupid yet. I’m doing baby steps and crawling away but it’s mo better you people join me in praying that one other dude will catch my eye soon please, let me save myself fully from this nonsense.


    • Boki December 7, 2016 at 9:29 am Reply

      I totally understand nne. We have all been here in one way or the other.
      Someone will soon come and totally distract you from that guy. Can I hear an AMEN????

      • Annie December 7, 2016 at 10:01 am Reply

        OMG! Amen!!!!!

        If he can even live next door, even better!!! Hehehehe

  2. Annie December 2, 2016 at 12:07 pm Reply

    Also…there’s geographical distance so that helps.

    *smh, smh, smh @ myself*

  3. Ify December 2, 2016 at 2:28 pm Reply

    Boki you nailed it…awesome review ( might want to consider a career in “book review” biko). I don’t personally know Toke but I love her & follow her on instagram. I have come across nasty comments about her being stupid but the truth is that she’s very smart. She’s making money from her book…more pretty shoes & a new title for her… “author”. The foolish ones will continue to die in silence & secretly envy Toke. BTW, your bedroom looks good.

    • Boki December 7, 2016 at 9:26 am Reply

      Thank you ? ? ?
      The girl turned her pain into cash!! You can’t hate on that!! I think most of the “Toke hate” comes from jealousy and envy. People like to see you wallow in your pain but she has refused to do that. Bravo to her!!

  4. Juju December 2, 2016 at 3:14 pm Reply

    All that long explanation for English, because what? Nothing do your English.Loved the book.Admire her on another level after reading the book. She took her pain and made something out of herself. People need to speak more about , this hush hush no help nobody.tchww. it hurt me where she said he took food out of her mouth when she lost an endorsement deal.Just because man. We need to do better as female folk. Speak up ooo. Chances are there’s other people going through what you are going through, but if people don’t see who to identify with, they die in silence.

    • Boki December 7, 2016 at 9:23 am Reply

      Lol!! I mispronounced a couple of words but thanks for making me feel less conscious of it nne.
      I agree with you. This culture of silence is what keeps a lot of people stuck in terribly toxic situations.

  5. eka December 2, 2016 at 6:56 pm Reply

    hahaha… Hi Ms Boki, you were born for this vlogging business! very nicely done!!! i wanted you to go on and on!….
    loved the last bit where you was encouraging people to walk away from abuse and generally unhappy situations .. may God give us the strength to guide our heart.

    • Boki December 7, 2016 at 9:20 am Reply

      Thank you!!! I really appreciate the fact that I can connect to y’all. God bless you nne ? ?

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