First of all, HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!
I pray 2017 is tons better than 2016 was. Even if last year was amazing for you, *although that puts you in the minority* there’s always room for more blessings, abi?

So the title of this post is a tad misleading because I honestly didn’t just come to this realisation….it’s something most people that are close to me know but I’m saying it out loud and publicly for the first time.

When you are a single woman of a certain age *read old spinster* society automatically assumes that you want certain things.. Well, guess what? Not all of us old spinster want them.

I’m getting ahead of myself, watch the video.
Thank you sooooooo much for always supporting your girl. God bless y’all XOXO

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Written by Boki
My name is Boki and I love all things beautiful. I’m a very positive person and I truly expect the same from all of you that decide to take this journey with me so please read our house rules and behave accordingly.

    8 Comments

  1. Eky Shirley January 6, 2017 at 12:45 pm Reply

    *Sashays into Comments Box*
    I had to sashay in my head (cause I think I’d look bloody ridiculous doing it in real life). but yeah, yayyyyyyyy. I (My name) made it’s debut in a Boki video. Look out world, I know celebrities o. Celeb by association, oginidi…

    Seriously though. Wow sis. That was brave. To voice the realisation out loud. that’s gutsy, but then again it’s you. It’s really okay to admit your morbid fear; we all have one. And am glad that there are options about having a child for your sake; you’d make an amazingly cool mum…

    it’s a new year; new beginnings, hopes and dreams. I’ll say a special prayer for you at mass, that whatever option you choose will come true and through for you. You’re one of the special ones….

    And yes; that thing I said about the girl in you, still came through in this one. Truly Boki you are the personification of “Äge ain’t nothing but a number”… HUGS!!!!!!!!

    • Boki January 8, 2017 at 4:52 pm Reply

      Thank you baby girl. You are one of my biggest supporters and i’m super grateful. You thinking i’ll make an amazing mum is the best compliment EVER!!!
      God bless you plenty plenty.

  2. Mary Ero January 7, 2017 at 12:03 am Reply

    Hey Boki

    ( I paused the video at the point where you blurted out your realisation to write this, so forgive me if I repeat any other sentiments you may have already expressed.)
    I can imagine that it was not easy for you to finally let that out, considering what a narrow-minded, busybody society we live in. But wasn’t that so liberating? As a caveat of sorts I have a child. However, prior to her coming into my life, I had very unpopular views about childbirth, parenthood and marriage. And to be honest, I still do.
    I have no interest in marriage, I do not think my daughter owes me anything, and I do not expect anything of her other than for her to make herself happy.
    We are on earth for ourselves, not to please the whims and caprices of others who, when you think about it, have no idea what THEY want. And deceiving oneself is such a sorry ass way to live ones life. Aint nobody get time for that.
    On a related note, you are spectacular. But I think you already know that.

    Love and Light.

  3. Mary Ero January 7, 2017 at 12:03 am Reply

    Hey Boki

    ( I paused the video at the point where you blurted out your realisation to write this, so forgive me if I repeat any other sentiments you may have already expressed.)
    I can imagine that it was not easy for you to finally let that out, considering what a narrow-minded, busybody society we live in. But wasn’t that so liberating? As a caveat of sorts I have a child. However, prior to her coming into my life, I had very unpopular views about childbirth, parenthood and marriage. And to be honest, I still do.
    I have no interest in marriage, I do not think my daughter owes me anything, and I do not expect anything of her other than for her to make herself happy.
    We are on earth for ourselves, not to please the whims and caprices of others who, when you think about it, have no idea what THEY want. And deceiving oneself is such a sorry ass way to live ones life. Aint nobody gat time for that.
    On a related note, you are spectacular. But I think you already know that.

    Love and Light.

    • Boki January 8, 2017 at 5:01 pm Reply

      Thank you sooooooo much.
      Liberating is an understatement!!!!
      It’s a case of “yeah, i said it…….call police” Lol!!!

  4. Mary Ero January 7, 2017 at 12:48 am Reply

    (Ok, so comment number 2 after watching the whole post.)

    I too, was terrified of childbirth before I had a child. I still am. After my initial experience in the labour ward I am done. But the irony is that the stories are more gory than the actual act. But that is another story for another day. Having heard you out I have a question for you: if you were 100% certain that childbirth would be painless and generally uneventful would you have considered it? Or more importantly, wanted to have a child by yourself?

    The point you make about checking in on your friends – and I daresay, your family too- is a strong one. It is easy for us to find a reason to not ‘meddle’ in their lives or to get caught up in ours. But I know the value of that friend that will not let you go; I have been severely depressed to the extent of suicidal tendencies more than once. ( Another story for my memoirs.)

    You rock, Boki – except for when you say you are old, because I don’t know how you can even say that. Muah

    • Boki January 8, 2017 at 5:07 pm Reply

      But i am old *ridiculously fabulously old* but still old!!!
      Mmmmwwwahhhh

      And asides from the pain factor, i simply do not have the desire to carry a child. None at all and it”s even funnier when you find out how fascinated i am with pregnant women. I simply adore them and i’m in awe of them but it’s simply not for me

  5. Gorgeousbskin January 9, 2017 at 12:15 pm Reply

    Great conversation per usual!
    I’m really sorry about your friend Olisa, I pray God rests his soul & gives you
    his loved ones peace.
    About checking up on friends, I just wanted to add that depression takes on many different faces and that is what makes it such a tricky illness to identify. Alot of people do not manifest the signs in the obvious ways that we might expect; as a matter of fact, some depressed people are the most cheerful/chirpy people you’d ever meet. They’d appear to have it all together and seem larger than life, very boisterous personalities yet… [I don’t know your friend but this even sounds like him seeing how he made you all happy yet…]
    I know someone who went to a party with her sisters dancing & drinking etc and left in the middle of the party like “i’ll be back, let me go get something real quick” but instead drove home & killed herself.
    I say all that to say, sometimes waiting to see if your friend seems “off” may never happen, but as we no be God we can only hope right? It’ll help to just check in regardless from time to time and demand answers beyond “i’m fine/nothing much”, engage and listen beyond just the words. Sometimes it’ll take an unconventional slip for it to be detected.
    Anyways… I better stop before my comment becomes longer than the actual post lol but thanks for this, definitely gave me tons to think on.
    Cheers babe xx

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